Sometimes u gotta vent....

Sorry it has been so long guys....between basketball practice/games, classes/homework and studying for the LSAT/GMAT I've been SWAMPED!!!!! But I found a little spare time to vent a little bit so we'll see where this goes. First of all I want to shout-out all of my fellow Andrews Cardinals. As of last night we surpassed our schools previous best win total (11-last year) by getting our 12th win of the season. We have definitely been through a lot as I explained to you guys a couple posts ago. It is definitely a good feeling to know that our hard work (training camp since September...WOW) is beginning to pay off. We still have some ways to go but we are in pretty good position to make it to the USCAA national tournament. The coaches poll got released today and we're back up to 6th in the nation!!!!!! A couple more wins should solidify that so lets just keep pushing team!

I'll begin this next section of the blog with this: being a nice guy is out of style. Yea yea, I know this sounds cliche and may sound like a played out realization...but its the inconvenient truth in relationships (or the lack thereof). Now usually when someone says this its a revelation that they are not currently having any luck with females and therefore they have to try and figure out whats wrong with them instead of looking in the mirror. This is not the case with me, and I'm not even proclaiming that I'm a nice guy. That would be for you to tell me...but anyways: I have just come to the realization that being squeaky clean is not in these days. I see many of my fellow men straight up dumbfounded when they think about what they have to offer and then at the same time see who females are settling for these days. I think the fault lies on each side and I will deal with both of them as best I can. I'll start with the men: MAN UP. I know that you feel like its not fair or your being bamboozled, hoodwinked, and just outright played for a fool. Honestly, at some point you gotta stop wallowing in the pity of your previous screw ups and be more vigilant. Vigilance, persistence, and a genuine swagger are the 3 keys to me in changing your fortunes. When I say vigilance, I don't want you to get the wrong idea, i don't want u holding females at gunpoint. In order to beat the "enemy" (which would be "bad guys") you have to match or supersede what they are offering. These dudes that you are up against go hard, they don't play games, they see what they want and they go for broke. You have to use your same "nice guy" genuine approach with the same sense of urgency. If you seem uninterested how do you expect her to be? Persistence shows that you are serious about what you have to offer. If you give up on a potential relationship you are sending a message to the female that you don't really even believe in what your "selling." If you don't think your good enough or on a certain level, you will give up easily and girls will read into that and word spreads a lot faster and farther than you think. Females want a man that is confident in himself. They want to be able to confide in you and your confidence can improve the mutual swag that you can have together...women don't want dead weight. Being genuine should be a given. Don't be fake and sell out to the "dark side" because they're getting all the play. In the end you'll end up worse off because women can smell a fake dude a mile away and will lose whatever respect they had for you. My honest opinion is that you have to be yourself- while at the same time having a realistic mix of "both sides." You can't be so squeaky clean that you look like a robot and you can't be so bad that you look like a threat on campus. Be you, be confident in you, and sooner or later you'll find a girl that u didn't have to do anything special to get; it will be just because of who you are.

I just have a little something for the ladies. I don't really mean for this part of the blog to apply to all of you and I am not i repeat NOT talking about any one person in particular. I do feel that some of the blame for this disappointment that has been felt on both ends. The first thing I'll say is that you lose credibility if after you spend hours bashing a guy for how much of a dog he is and then you turn around and try to get with that same person. Then after he does the same thing to you that you have been warned about..in fact warned others about you want to tell the world about your woes. Honestly I'm sick of hearing it, and I'm sure some of your friends are too. You all are beautiful! You deserve better, but if you'd like to settle I have no qualms with that...we just don't want to hear about it when it blows up. But yo that's all I have to say, I'd appreciate some feedback and other points of view it may help future blogs. God bless!